Everyone deserves access to birth control if they want it. But I would never push someone (any gender) to just have to deal with side effects that can ruin or end their life. My primary issue, especially for those who seek to misunderstand me, is that we tell women to put up with side effects or worse—tell them they are imagining them. And at the same time, completely validate men and say they deserve better. I’m not asking to medicate men into feeling miserable. I’m asking to believe and valida